If you’ve read my blog before, you know I love analogies. Everything concrete points to something abstract for me.
Lately I have been thinking about friendships and relationships (including marriage), and I have concluded that I would rather have a good FIT with a person, over a perfect MATCH. In my opinion, matching happens on the surface level — there’s an attraction, or common interests, and maybe good conversation. Fit, on the other hand, occurs when personalities, lifestyle habits, morals, and deeper matters are able to mesh together — perhaps not seamlessly, but they mesh.
What are your thoughts? Talk to me. Would you rather have a great match or a great fit in a friendship or romantic relationship?
Talk to me…
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I believe that we are like puzzle pieces that may be different shapes, sizes and colors. Alone we are good, but standing alone feels in complete! But when that piece finds another piece that fits with their way of thinking, living, loving, fellowshipping, somehow their differences don’t matter. When they come together, it creates a newness and a solid, tight fit that when standing together they can withstand any obstacles that may come their way! I would much rather be a good fit perfected by Christ!
Wow. You got me thinking tonight. The dictionary defines match as, “a person…that equals or resembles another in a certain respect.” Often times, people look for the perfect match – a person who they share a common goal, sense of humor, taste for food, political views, educational background, etc. Sounds great, but just because things are similar does not always imply that they serve a great function together. Often times you need an opposite, not a match.
For instance, let’s say you have on a shoe that is too tight, but looks great!! It goes with your ensemble perfectly, but unfortunately, it’s a bit snug for the amount of walking you have to do. Well, the shoe that matches your outfit is too tight, but at least when you go out in public, you’ll get compliments. Right? Meanwhile, you see a comfortable pair of New Balances over in the corner. They fit, but they don’t match your killer outfit. People are going to think you’re on your way to an usher convention at church…or you’re lazy…or…whatever women would think. But the truth is, I think it’s always better to have a good fit than a great match.
A match can hurt. A fit….fits. A match looks good to others. A fit gives you balance. A match is what it is, whether it fits or not. If you happen to be swollen or sore for a while, a fit gives a little room for growth. A match goes well with some other similar externality. A fit is designed to work well with YOU.
Sounds good, however, it takes a bit of experience to discern the less than perspicuous difference between the two.